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Thriving in the Wilderness

When I was writing my book, I wondered if there was anyway to avoid wilderness.  I spent a lot of time trying to figure out ways, but then I looked back at every catalytic time in my life and realised it was because of a wilderness.  As painful as wilderness is, it is necessary.  The trick is to enter without delay and to figure the stuff out and then leave when we have.  That sounds so obvious, but it's not when you in the midst of it. The two most crucial times of wildernes...

April 8, 2020

The Valley of Insight Builds Confidence

In my first book, I wrote about the cycle of growth and the four stages you go through.  I used the analogy of a journey to explain the stages we go though as we grow and gave some tools to navigate them well. Stage 1:  Disharmony Stage 2:  Awareness and Hope Stage 3:  The Valley of Insight. Stage 4:  Victory and Mastery I have covered stage 1 and 2 in my last blogs, you can click on the links above to read them. The valley of insight is a term I heard from an old schoo...

March 27, 2020

Leaning Towards Hope.

The second stage leaders can lead their people through right now, is Awareness and Hope. This stage is all about facing the situation head on, looking at what the landscape is with absolute honesty, no sugar coating, no panic, no rose-tinted glasses, just the naked truth of what is going on, but doing that leaning toward hope. I have heard from clients already where they have sat in their boardroom and had some real, hard honest conversations of where things are at right now, where they will be ...

March 23, 2020

Moving through Crisis

I woke up this morning with the word Crisis banging around in my head, and my heart beating wildly with excitement. The one thing that can bring the best out of people is a crisis, yes, I know it can also bring the worst out of people too, but not if they have great leadership. I find writing a great way to process, so I thought I would share some of my thoughts over the next few days, to help us navigate through this crisis, it would be a shame to waste this opportunity to not only lead y...

March 23, 2020

Here To There And Navigating The Land Inbetween.

Pat Lencioni, in his book The Advantage: Why Organisation Health Trumps Everything Else in Business, makes an undeniable case that organisational health surpasses all other disciplines in business as the greatest opportunity for improvement and gives organisations a truly competitive edge.  He writes about four actionable steps in achieving long-term, sustainable success. And he has continuous and repeated success in this area, so it really works. BUT, and yes there is a BIG LOUD BUT&helli...

March 13, 2020

The Power of A Challenge

They say a picture is worth a thousand words.  I love this photo. Not because I am in a once in a lifetime moment standing on a stage with one of my hero's, but this exact moment caught on camera captures a catalytic moment. I can't even remember exactly what we were saying, but I do remember that Craig challenged me and if I had to caption this it would be with a speak bubble over Craig "Really?!"  and a thought bubble over me  "Busted".  And this in front of a few hundred ...

March 7, 2020

It's Officially Autumn. Change is in the air.

Autumn is my favourite time of the year.  I love the physical signs of change that start to happen all around us.  First the "wee nip in the air" and then the darker mornings and evenings and of course the beautiful display as the leaves change colour and then rain down making thick carpets that are almost impossible to not to kick as you walk. We have all heard the saying "Change is inevitable, growth is optional" by John Maxwell.  I see this play out time and time again, when wo...

March 2, 2020

Communication is a two way street

We have all heard the phrase "Communication is a two way street."  But is it?  It should be, but in reality, it can be a little more complicated than that. If it were that simple we wouldn't have so many misunderstandings in the workplace (and at home).  HR practitioners will tell you it isn't because they spend a lot of time picking up the pieces of broken down relationship that are mostly misunderstandings.  Communication is a funny complex thing.  It is not just a two...

January 13, 2020

The Uncomfortable Truth

In my pursuit for growth I have often had moments when I have had a realisation of some of my dark sides, these moments are sometimes breathtakingly painful.  If you are serious about developing yourself and the art of self leadership you would have had these moments too.  It might be a random conversation, an article, a post or a friend calling you out. In that moment you have a choice.  What do you do with that stinging truth as you feel the shame of it wash over you?  Do y...

January 5, 2020

What was intended for evil turned to good...

There is a sentence in the story of Joseph of Egypt that has always gripped me when things go sideways and then turn out good in the end.  It’s when Joseph confronts his brothers who had thrown him in a pit and sold him to slavery, he stands before them as the second most powerful man in Eqypt with the power to devastate them with one command, but he choses forgiveness and he says, As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result...

October 16, 2019

Blindspots! We all have them.

It is Officially Spring!  I am writing this on the first day of spring, 1 September.  It is also Father's day here in New Zealand, hope you had a fabulous Fathers day if you are a dad.  May you lead strong and true in that very important leadership role. There is nothing like the role of parent that gives you the opportunity to face that most dreaded thing that can make any courageous leader's blood run cold.  The fact that we may be less than perfect. And even worst, that we...

September 1, 2019

In The Thick Of Thin Things.

Do you every get caught up in the thick of thin things?  When life gets so "busy" that you are running, balancing, rushing, pulling, getting, hustling, texting... you get the idea.   All this is celebrated and honoured in the culture we live in today.  So we keep doing it, filling our lives up with endless,  meetings, activities and lists.  Oh the lists, the long glorious lists.  Do you know that some studies have showed that just making the list can give us such a...

April 22, 2019

Why wait for a new season?

I woke up this morning with the realisation that it was a new season, the temperature has well and truly dipped as I walked in the dark this morning.  It is also a new financial year.  My brain immediately did the proverbial "wipe that slate clean, let's start afresh". Why is it we are so primed for waiting for new starts?  We start our diets on a Monday, the start of the week, we hang on until New Year's day to chalk up our wins and losses and then set our intentions for the new ...

April 2, 2019

Trust. Simple, not easy.

I recently found a questionnaire in a book I was reading on Self trust.  I have always found things that increase my self awareness interesting and valuable.  The more we understand ourselves the more the world around us makes sense.  It exposes how we see our world.  Sometimes how we see the world isn’t necessarily how the world is. I am coming to realise more and more as I work with Leaders and their teams how vital a seemly simple thing like trust is.  I have also s...

March 25, 2019

What riding pillion taught me about Leadership.

My husband and I have recently gone on a few motorbike trips with some friends.  I have always enjoyed Motorbikes, in fact, I first fell in love with my husband’s bike before I actually met him, when I moved in across the road from him.  I love riding pillion with my husband. We went for a quick ride with our “biker" friends this last weekend. One of the reasons I love riding a motorbike so much is the fact that you are part of your environment, you smell the trees and bushes, and ...

January 8, 2019

Be You Always!

Authentic! This is another word that is bandied about these days because it sounds sexy and cool.  Words like this often lose their real meaning because when it gets “branded” we start to associated the word with whatever has made it popular.  And that is all fine, but it is good to sometimes look up the word and to see what it is about the word that is stirring us. So what does Authenticity mean?  And more importantly what does it mean to you and your business, team or life?...

October 8, 2018

Actions Speak Louder than Words

Who you are speaks so loudly, I can’t hear a word you’re saying.  Ralph Waldo Emerson. The word Integrity is one of those words which is largely misunderstood.  It is often assumed it means someone who acts a certain way.  An honest person.  And that is part of it.  This is the word that is the first to be thrown around when I run a facilitation on Values and it is the one value I push back on the most. Firstly because most people don’t really understand what it me...

September 23, 2018

Why I have given up on Budgeting!

I have giving up on budgeting!  All the accountants and bookkeepers stopped breathing right there.  Breathe!!!  Now let me explain.  Actually if I am totally honest I have never really budgeted. Most of my life it has been an area that I have carried a lot of shame around, as a coach and business person I have felt that I should have known better.  The longer I left it the harder it was to ask for help.   My first introduction to budgeting came when my husband and I...

August 8, 2018

Does your Leadership leave people with a lift or a limp?

This is a question I have been pondering lately. I get to experience different kinds of leaders in the work that I do. All leaders are inspiring, some inspire me for the wrong reasons. Some leaders inspire me to continue the work that I do so that I can coach up-and-coming leaders to not be like them. This week I got to work with some great leaders who inspired me for all the right reasons and when I see leaders like that it fills me with hope and joy, it reminds me why great leadership is so im...

August 3, 2018

Leadership Mastery

Mastery is defined as comprehensive knowledge or skill in a particular subject or activity.  It starts with mastering ourselves and leads to us leaving a legacy that adds value, empowers, builds and makes a way for others. Great leadership doesn’t start when you are entrusted with a team, it starts with leading one person…. Yourself.  And to be honest it will probably be the hardest person you will ever have to lead. I always have a quip when people start talking about time ma...

July 18, 2018

3 Powerful Reasons for Hiring A Coach

“The term ‘Coach’ was initially started in 1830 and the Oxford University put forth the meaning of this term as slang for a tutor”.  I recently read this in an article on the History of Coaching by Mike Morrison. The term Coach comes from the actually horse and carriage Coaches that carried people from one place to the other literally. Today Coaching has grown in popularity and in effectiveness.  There are also many styles and models of coaching just as there are many personal...

June 25, 2018

The Power of Frustration!

Most of us want to avoid feelings of discomfort for the large part. We want to buy into the Hollywood happily-ever-after. We want to avoid all struggle and it would be great if we could skip through life without bumps, trips or dark patches thank you very much. The reality is that this view is both unrealistic and unhelpful. Unrealistic because no matter how positive you are, we live in a broken world with people who are doing the best with what they have right now and sometimes their best still...

April 19, 2018

Goodbye Sudan!

I recently saw and shared a post on Facebook that really saddened me, but also sparked a line of thought for this blog.   Sadly this week the last male White Rhino in existence died in captivity.  The photo was posted with the man who would have cared for him.  I posted it and felt incredibly sad as these gorgeous animals are from the country of my birth and so it really struck a cord.  They have been poached for their horn for greed for many years and many thousands of ...

March 25, 2018

Moving Through Life Without Baggage.

If only life was so simple…  Us humans are complex beings.  We have such good intentions and yet we can sometimes go through seasons where we can actually be our own worst enemy.  We hide when we should be shining.  We hesitate when we should be jumping.  We hold grudges when we should be walking free. The thing about grudges, offenses and unforgiveness is that they are so hard to recognise until we have been carrying them around for a while.  And the danger ...

March 11, 2018

Where there seems to be no way….

In the busyness of life we can sometimes fall into the trap that we don’t have time to Selah (Pause, and calmly think on that)  I use this term to take time out of my busy schedule to get perspective and keep the main thing, the main thing. I recently had a moment that reminded me that even coaches are prone to being blindsided by this trap.  It is always easier to drum it into your clients than to actually do it yourself (blush)…..  I had a  busy day of meetings an...

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